We invited Kirk’s bio-mother and Alex’s bio-dad to help us paint their pinewood derby cars yesterday! They had a great visit! These kinds of positive experiences are so crucial for their healthy attachment development!
It’s not always possible, though. Despite repeated invitations, Mary’s bio-mother hasn’t come to see her in over a year. Her bio-father is in prison. Kirk’s bio-dad lives states away, and we tried to see that family once when we were in Cincinnati for the baby, but that was still too far away for them. We will try again someday. Alex’s bio-mom usually waits in their car because she can’t stay clean so can’t come to visits. He gets to hug her and wave, though, when she is safe enough for that, but she doesn’t even always want that. Sometimes she just wants to watch him. They are all getting old enough to recognize more and more about these issues and the implications of it, but it’s so good for them when it does work out!
Family is always worth it.