Mary Fixing Her Own Hair

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I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints since 2009. I serve as a Chaplain, and work as a counselor. I got bilateral cochlear implants in 2010, but will always love sign language. I choose books over television, and organics over processed. Nothing is as close to flying as ballroom dancing - except maybe running, when in the solo mood. I would rather be outside than anywhere else, especially at the river riding my bike or kayaking. PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy, and currently doing a post-doc in Jewish Studies and an MDiv in Pastoral Counseling. The best thing about Emily World is that it's always an adventure, even if (not so) grammatically precise. The only thing better than writing is being married to a writer. Nathan Christensen and I were married in the Oklahoma City temple on 13 October 2012, and have since fostered more than eighty-five children. We have adopted the six who stayed, and are totally and completely and helplessly in love with our family. Nathan writes musical theater, including "Broadcast" (a musical history of the radio) and an adaption of Lois Lowry's "The Giver". He served his mission in South Korea, has taught song-writing in New York City public schools, and worked as a theater critic for a Tucson newspaper. This is not an official Web site of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

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Mary Fixing Her Own Hair — 4 Comments

  1. Oh, it is SO SO cute! I agree with the other comment here, she is a darling child any which way that her hair is, but TELL HER we LIKE her own job of fixing it! :)

    This next part will sound rude and racist–but I promise from the bottom of my heart it is not.

    You know how the YM/YW have dress standards, and that leaders can subconsciously -without saying anything to the Youth- somewhat orchestrate a certain behavior for an activity by what dress code they choose for it?

    I learned from 2 other white adoptive moms that even though other black people quiz them about why they don’t have their little black girl’s hair done in the ‘many braids and beads’ style that is a typically ‘black’ look,(and have been not kindly ‘lectured’ by black women for “not letting their girls be ‘true’ to their black heritage” by not having their hair in that look) but both moms have learned by odd experience over time (in public schools) that their girls exhibit more unfortunate traits and behaviors and mimic their little black friends who do not have many rules at home- ie: mouthy behavior, respect-to-adults issues, obedience, discipline problems etc….
    And when these white mothers learned there might be a correlation, they –without making a big deal or saying anything– went to soft short afros like Mary has a lot, or something like she has fixed for herself today. And the issues quite quickly melted away, BECAUSE (the moms felt) that their girls no longer ‘identified with/acted like’ the more troubled and troublesome girls who routinely and culturally wore the many braids and beads.

    I found it fascinating, that subconsciously hair styles could portend to different behaviors.
    Again, tell Mary how very cute her hair is –and she is.
    Thanks for listening.

    • We work hard to find positive black role models! So far they still love beads, but we don’t do them every week because it takes four hours each.