Tonight was Nathan’s big night.
He’s like that; it’s what he does.
He doesn’t just write plays and songs and musicals.
He creates experiences.
It’s part of why I picked him out for marriage, because can you imagine how lovely and fun it is to be married to him?
He works so hard, producing a hundred different things, directing different projects, editing and dramaturging for other people’s plays and musicals, plus normal life things like teaching violin lessons and being a father to six special needs preschoolers and husband to a wife with cancer, who sometimes can’t do much at all.
You guys think I used to be busy and do way too much and pack in the impossible in a day? You should take a look at his daily life!
Nathan’s parents were a huge help tonight, watching the younger three while we set up and then picking up Kirk and Mary to bring them. We are so grateful! It’s another night where they made my assignment possible, but I didn’t even have a moment to breathe a thank you hardly, much less appreciate their company. They do so much for us, and with both my parents gone, I am always especially grateful for their relationships with our children.
Know who was a super help to me tonight? Alex! He worked with me for almost three hours on setting up the good tables, and I was so impressed. He worked so hard, and I was so proud of him. There’s no way we would have finished on time if he had not helped me.
The game went well, with kids and families and teens and young adult couples and older adults I never seen race around so fast! It was amazing! Everyone got into it, and most people were brave to try the tasting party, and we were all so pleased to help support little Joshua.
What an adventure!
I hope people had fun, and I love that more people are trusting Nathan’s vision and what he creates.
My worst moment was when I threw a gift bag across a table and the woman missed it, meaning to say I spilled balsamic vinegar all over her fancy pants. It reminded me of the ruined Paris gown in Thoroughly Modern Millie. I felt terrible, and told my kids about it as an example of not making good choices and how sometimes we can’t undo things to fix them. I offered to pay for the pants, and also broke out in hives just from the horror and anxiety of it all.
It was almost as bad as last year, when I was leaving the house one afternoon and backed my car right into a waiting car for one of Nathan’s violin students.
Otherwise, I’m pretty sure the night was a success!
After we cleaned up, Nathan and I collapsed on the ground outside the community center. Theater events are big to stage underfunded and understaffed, as they always are, but creating experiences is all about the work of mortality, right? We have so many challenging experiences that teach us so much. We know that while life may be so hard sometimes, we could not progress without them.
But for people to play a game or immerse themselves in a story, or become a part of it, that gives them not just an escape from the difficulties of mortality… but insight into it, and skills for it, and courage to keep going.
That’s Nathan’s gift: more is happening than just the story.
And it connects us, and builds relationships, celebrates the creative side of all of us – even those of us who are more clumsy and dangerous drivers.
Oh, and the actors and people involved? They are incredible! Their hearts are so full of compassion, and they give everything to his projects, and commit to the experience and not just a production. We love them so much!
I did my best to work hard to help his event go smoothly, and could feel the increased capacity part of the atonement promise as I tried.
But my favorite part was after it was all over, just sitting under the stars with my husband on the spring night air.
(Another moment made possible by grandparents.)