Just an Ordinary Day

This day started normally enough:

Even for those who work hard to redefine what is “normal”:

The kids got themselves dressed:

And worked hard on their school work:

We all had paperwork to do on the computer:

And some of us spent the afternoon crunching numbers.

It was all as normal as could be, you might think.

And then my father’s father, my last grandparent, passed away.

Evening plans were cancelled, and we loaded up in the van to drive to Arkansas to meet Uncle Kirk.

He was a veteran, I told them.

He fought for our flag? They asked.

Yes, I said, and he also liked to fly planes.

And he loved Grandma more than anybody:

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My brother and I were the only grandkids until we were grown, when my aunt – who was younger than my father – had her kids, and then they got to grow up on their own, overlapped by my brother’s kids.  My children came too late to know my grandmother, who also passed away from cancer (like too many from our family), but they knew my grandfather from these recent visits since our family has settled and had adoptive placements enough for permission to travel.


We drove over to see my aunt, and to hug my brother, and to eat a meal together as a family.

That’s what grandma would have made us do anyway.

We drove back late, because we can’t really stay with the baby, and because she and Mary have pre-op appointments tomorrow, plus our (last?!) quarterly DHS visit.

Besides that, Mary finally got her final approval for adoption, and we sign paperwork tomorrow.  It isn’t final, but we should get a court date now!  She will officially graduate foster care tomorrow, and she could not be more excited.

This is the roller coaster of our life, from the hard day of yesterday being the anniversary of mom’s death to the good news for Mary today, to the difficult news of my grandfather passing.

We don’t know yet when the funeral is or any details, but we will know tomorrow.

In the meantime, we have an adoption, Mary’s second cochlear implant surgery, and the baby is in pre-trial next week, and we have the baby’s surgeries in Cincinnati to prepare for – with more reports that they are concerned surgery will not go well, and that we need to be prepared for that.

She’s trying so hard!  Watch her here, where she is supposed to be doing her therapy – moving into a crawl position and back into a sitting position – with her needing a “minute nap” in the middle because she just doesn’t have enough air to have that much energy… and then also using it to try and manipulate her way out of having to work so hard!  She is such a character!

We are all doing our best these days, I think.

The Elvis hair below, caused by her pulling out her ponytail, is just a highlight:

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About Emily

I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints since 2009. I serve as a Chaplain, and work as a counselor. I got bilateral cochlear implants in 2010, but will always love sign language. I choose books over television, and organics over processed. Nothing is as close to flying as ballroom dancing - except maybe running, when in the solo mood. I would rather be outside than anywhere else, especially at the river riding my bike or kayaking. PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy, and currently doing a post-doc in Jewish Studies and an MDiv in Pastoral Counseling. The best thing about Emily World is that it's always an adventure, even if (not so) grammatically precise. The only thing better than writing is being married to a writer. Nathan Christensen and I were married in the Oklahoma City temple on 13 October 2012, and have since fostered more than eighty-five children. We have adopted the six who stayed, and are totally and completely and helplessly in love with our family. Nathan writes musical theater, including "Broadcast" (a musical history of the radio) and an adaption of Lois Lowry's "The Giver". He served his mission in South Korea, has taught song-writing in New York City public schools, and worked as a theater critic for a Tucson newspaper. This is not an official Web site of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.


Just an Ordinary Day — 2 Comments

  1. So glad you were able to see your grandfather recently before he passed! This video of baby girl made my day, adorable!