Last night, Nathan and I had big news to share.
So we invited the parents over:
And they were chatting like normal:
Until they finally noticed our surprise:
And then they were as happy as we are:
This is what they saw:
These are flowers from our wedding, of course… with a little surprise in the wreath:
They were so happy for us!
We got lots of smiles and hugs, and lots of advice for pregnancy being scary after two miscarriages already, and lots of planning for how to care for Emily until this baby is born… including being forbidden from running at the river without a stick or baseball bat.
But that’s what moms are for, the giving of the best advice and celebrating with you even when you are a wee bit anxious.
Yeah, that’s what moms are for.
We told my mom, too.
We debated about whether to announce it at all until after the child was safely born and at least six years old.
With our first pregnancy, news got out early because we didn’t know until the miscarriage, and thought at first it was an ovarian cancer scare, and the second time news got out because mom died.
We needed a normal and healthy announcement that we chose to give, one that wasn’t taken from us in the midst of crisis.
Also, we have met so many who have had miscarriages, and have received so much mail from those who have experienced miscarriage, and so many who fear it is taboo or just not talked about… we feel like we want to be open and sharing, honoring the children we have lost, and authentic to the experience of each individual pregnancy.
So far, this pregnancy looks perfect and could not be going better.
But we are just going to take it one day at a time.
This pregnancy has been very different than the others, and I have been very very sick and very very tired. In some ways it has been worse than the other two pregnancies, but in a good way – worse because we are seriously pregnant. Not like before when I was so sick because something was seriously wrong.
We will see.
We have promises, and trust His timing in them being fulfilled.
We believe there is purpose in all things, and always lessons to learn, so no matter what happens we are still signed up on that plan for eternity.
But today, just for a moment, after a very challenging seven months, everything was good and happy and easy and fun. And that’s ok, too.